I (24F) just broke up with my boyfriend (26M) because he wasn’t paying rent anymore. I still love him but can’t imagine a future with someone that can’t handle himself

2021.12.08 23:06 Desperate_Lobster5 I (24F) just broke up with my boyfriend (26M) because he wasn’t paying rent anymore. I still love him but can’t imagine a future with someone that can’t handle himself

We’ve been living together since one year. I kinda felt from the beginning that he wasn’t into it as much as I was. I was looking for flat and doing all the papers for the rent, he wasn’t much help already at the time. But we discussed it and moved on. We then stated living together. It was my first time living with someone so I didn’t had any clue on how to split bills and everything, so I told him we could go 50/50 bc I felt it was fair. Thing is that I was still a student at the time and only doing 1200€ everything month while Hell do around 2400 to 3000 euros every month. I was broke every end but of the month. he wanted to live a kinda expensive lifestyle and since he was the one cooking (this was pre established - he cooked and I cleaned), he would always buy these nice but expensive ingredients that we would pay together. We had an argument during summer because he was being selfish, he would never pay for restaurant or any little intention, while I was doing it even if I had very little money. He would also never be really helping or caring much, he wouldn’t take me to my friend when he had a car (20 minutes ride for him compares to nearly 2 hours transportation for me) etc…
He then went on a trip with his friends during summer and I think he spent most of his savings (maybe around 3000 euros I guess) When he got back home, he decided to take a break from work and stayed unemployed for 4 months. He deliberately did nothing while he could have a job that payed very well. But he stayed home. I ended up my studies in late august and have been looking for a job since then. It’s not easy at all to find something good quickly in my field (communication). But since we both got unemployed, bills got hard to pay. He still was getting as much money that I was payed while my student year (around 1100 euros) and I am getting around 800euros.
But on October, he didn’t sent me rent (our rent is 900 - so he owed me 450 euros). We are using an app to count who ones money to who. And at the time I didn’t have a credit card that was working so he payed for a few stuff, but when the rent arrived , he was then the one owing me money because of the balance. He never gave it to me. On my birthday on late October he told me we were too broke to go to dinner or do something nice. But he then asked me if I wanted to go to the club with his friends.. On his birthday just a few days later we had a huge argue that ended up badly, both screaming, pushing each other. Because I felt that he was taking me for a fool and had the nerve to reproach me to ask him for the rent he owed me… On November things quiet down, he went back to work and I did a loooot of yoga not to be so mad. I proposed him a new way of handling money that would make him more “aware” of what we had to pay for the flat. He didn’t took it so well. I told him that there was two solutions : he could take the rent and the fees on his own accounts and I would send him the half of it at the beginning of every month since I know I’m a reliable person and wouldn’t skip it. Or I told him to pay me everything before the 5 of the month with an automatic transfer. He said ok for the transfer, but this month he only sent me 50euros so far because he said he can’t do more.
I can’t blame him to be broke, but I’m so mad at him to put me in such bad situation. And he wouldn’t ask family or friend to lend him money because it’s “too hard” so I had to ask my friends for money in order to pay his part of the rent. So I had no choice but to tell him that we had to give back the flat, since I can’t pay it on my own. And I decided to break up with him cause I feel played. Thing is that I hate that our breakup has to be a money problem …. Of course the money isn’t the heart of the problem, it’s more about the lack of communication and how I would take care of everything for him. It’s also about trust. But I still feel shitty. I’m so mad because we are in love and I feel like I’ve been trying hard to make everything work but that ended up shitty. I feel like I was too kind and that he used it to play me. I feel bad about myself and insecure because of this. (Sorry my English sucks, I’m French!! 🥖)
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2021.12.08 23:06 Hail_Shaggy Omnitrix origin

The most powerful in the galaxy now given sentience to spread peace to the galaxy
Level 20 technology
because of your tech level, you are one of the most sought out in the galaxy and that includes mobs too, making mobs spawn 2x more around you
Green colors
the Omnitrix is of green color meaning that you are green as well when you are not transformed
Power source
its power source is so strong that you don't need to eat to gain back energy meaning you don't have hunger
Defensive blast
every time you take 3 hearts of health you send the one who did it back 10 blocks
Symbol of Peace
villagers have their prices start out already at half value however they also seem to congregate around you because of your popularity
Transforming
by pressing the primary ability key, you can choose between all of the normal origins to transform into, gaining their advantages and disadvantages as well as keeping some of your own advantages and disadvantages like for example ''level 20 technology '' and ''symbol of peace'' but not ones that are purely because of you being a machine. you can unlock more than just the regular origins by scanning the mob that the origin you want represents, like for example scanning a wolf to get a wolf origin however that only counts if the origin you want is based on an already existing mob, so a Saiyan origin, for example, would have you just scan someone with that origin since it doesn't represent any mob, however you cant turn into origins that the server doesn't allow for non-admins.
after you transform there is a 5 minute time period where you will be in that transformation, after it passes you will return to normal and have a 1-minute cooldown to transform again
Scanning mode
by holding the secondary ability key while being hit you will get the DNA of the origin that it represents or if it is already the origin then you will just get it normally
Dangers recharge
if someone was about to hit the finishing blow on you, you will transform into a random origin, however, this only activates if the transforming ability is on cooldown or you aren't transformed into an origin
Universal translator
you are able to trade with illagers and enderman if you manage to get them stuck in a way that enables you to safely do it
Electricities downfall
you take damage in water[it's not something the Omnitrix has but I want to give it some weaknesses]
Forced dechargement
by you going over a decharger you will get your energy forcibly pulled out of you, giving you slowness 2 for 5 seconds while on top of it also detransforming you, and after that, you will be unable to move for 1 minute and your ''defensive blast'' ability won't work'' after it you will be able to move again
Not hack-proof
by someone using the hacking item on you, they will be able to forcibly make you transform into a certain origin or detransform you from your current one, if you they hold the item for 5 seconds while right next to you they will transform into a random origin for 5 minutes

Technology's evolution
after 100 days the Omnitrix will recalibrate turning it into its ''prototype mode'' and giving you these abilities

Prime of the species
after the recalibration your transformations are now the prime version of the species, giving them two more hearts making them do 1 more damage, and removing one of their weaknesses along as it's not core to the origin, so not needing more food or taking more kinetic damage but something like taking damage on water would stay, because it is the prime version of the species that means that you can also wear a tier above armor that your origin normally had it limited to, like diamond instead of chainmail
long-distance scanning
your scanning mode now has a 10 block distance that it can scan, with it taking 5 seconds until it is fully scanned
Built-in GPS
you have the coordinates on your screen even without the f3 menu open
Self Destruct mode
by holding the ternary key for at least 5 seconds you cause a small explosion that deals 4 hearts of damage and doesn't destroy the surroundings, by holding it for 1 minute however causes an explosion twice the size of a charged creeper's explosion, holding it for 5 minutes causes an explosion that destroys everything in a 100 block radius, by holding it for 10 minutes 200 blocks and so forth with everything above the 1-minute mark killing you as well
Master control
you are able to go in and out of your transformations instantly by pressing the primary ability key, the Omnitrix doesn't have a cooldown after detransforming anymore, so you can transform into it instantly after
Alien X
by hacking the Omnitrix into unlocking alien x you are able to turn into him.
when you turn into him you will be teleported to another dimension where you will have at first a 10% chance of getting the personalities to listen to you and if they don't you will stay there for the 5 minutes not doing anything until you turn back to normal, if you manage to get them to talk to you, you will get 20 questions and if you answer them correctly you will gain control of alien x
while in alien x you will have the ability to use admin commands and will automatically turn into creative mode, if you manually go out of it you will have 9 rows of hearts and will be immune to explosions along with all potion effects, you will deal 20 hearts of damage with your fists and you will have creative flying without even being in creative, your ternary ability key while in alien x is to restore everything in a 100 block radius of you back into what they originally were, your secondary is to grow yourself to be 20 blocks tall or up to 100 blocks tall if you hold it for 5 seconds and you will go back to your normal size if you press it again, your primary ability will be replaced with the blinking ability which instantly kills any entities who you have on your sight along as it's not another alien x and also erases any blocks in a 50 block radius in front of it, by holding the ternary ability key you create a 50 block wall of stone where you look at[ to recreate alien x's creation ability]
and that's it
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